Our Wedding

Taiwan - Alisan Jan 2016


Our Alishan Free n Easy. A super nice place.
A 2D1N stay at the middle of Alishan. We did not want to go to the very top, mid hill is good, quiet and peaceful.

I booked Tea Garden. Manage to find it as it is near a bus stop. There was really nothing much there. It is ok, the view was just too good to be true, cool weather....which was mmm......7 degree.

 This is our room view. Looking at such view, it feels like walking into a painting. Air was so fresh, the place was quiet. Beautiful sun beautiful weather. My heart feel so relaxed. Never have such a feeling before. Away from the busy city, your pace began to slow down, you began to relax and enjoy the view. Your mood becomes better.

 Our room. You dont need a air-con. It's cold enought.
 I found a wonderful place in Alishan, not many people know this place. We climbed 40 mins just to see this. Seas of clouds! It is so beautiful! You will never regret coming up here.



Alishan, i will be back!

Why must we have kids

Hubby ask me why must people have kids? Do I want to havekids? For him, he feel if no kids, we can save a lot of money, every year wecan go travel, but he wanted to know how his child will looks like. For me, Ican have or without kids. Its not a must for me. Most people give the reason was its natural for married couple to have kids, parents wanted them to have kids. Some is because they like kids.

Its not easy to feed a child in Singapore. Money is a bigissue, how much must a family earn before you can really take care of a child?I believe we will use up all our savings, and what we earn every mth will alsobe use up, means we have no extra money to save. From childcare fees to food,wear….especially baby milk powder is so expensive. 1 mth can use up to or morethan S$1K. Still need to give both side parents money, home bills…

At the end of the day what do we have? So far no one cangive me a good answer why they want to have kids. Some choose not to have kidsas they feel they are happier without kids. They can save more money and buywhatever they want, do whatever they want, they have all the freedom. Those that have kids will complain how they feel, regret having kids.

So why have kids? Because everyone having kids so I alsomust have? Parents want to see their grandchild so have kids? Because it is astandard, married and have kids, it’s a procedure? Do I like kids? Not really very like, cute childens sure everyone like. Sometimes I find them very cute, sometimes I findthem very irrating. So I cant say I very like or don’t like at all. No answerhaha… So everytime I will only say its ok with me. Want or don’t want also can.Of cause I don’t mind to have a kid of mine. Most important is my hubby decision too, he want I am happy to have to. If he don’t want I am also ok.

Sometimes I also will wonder how my child will look like. Especiallywhen you see all your friends starting to have their own kids. What is thatkind of feelings of having your own kids. I may have a different thinking whenI have my own kids, most people say that. The feeling is very special. Anyway,leave it to nature, if have than have lol, if no also nevermind. If its mine itwill be mine.

My Darling Hubby

I have written on so many things but I haven’t reallywritten about my hubby. I don’t get to know him through friends, nor at workplace, both of us are totally unrelated. Many people ask how we get to know each other. Not like most people, they go to the same school, or are excolleagues, or get to know each other while outing. When we tell them we kneweach other online, most people were surprised. I won’t elaborate how and which website we get to know each other.
Friends start asking me, you not scare meh. Online friends you dare to meet? I told them ask long you are careful, no need to worry somuch. I can’t say I totally not scare, so I would try to chat more often than arrange for a meet up. Our 1st meet up was in AMK Hub, and he waslate haha. Our 1st meet up was ok, impression of him not bad. Forhim should be the same ba haha. I don’t remember how long later, both of usdecide to try it out. Of cause in the beginning our relationship wasn’t that strong, as time goes by, we get to know each other more.
We started our planning, to apply for flat, at 1stwe wanted to buy resale flat, but feel its not worth it, so in the end we apply for BTO. Till now still waiting for it. Than arrange for our wedding dates,most of it are settled so right now waiting for our flat to come only. Afterall these years, there are happy and sad moments, my hubby is not that type ofguy that will always sweet talk to you, nor will the word I Love You come outfrom his mouth. But I know he loves me, his actions show. I kind of love him more and more, I can’t imagine life without him.
Of cause I sometimes hope he will say some touching words to me, he will say very “rou ma”, he cant say itout haha. Its ok for me, I rather have a faitful hubby than those always sweettalk to wife but outside having an affair. I don’t need a romantic proposal, I only need a blissful marriage life. As long I know deep in hubby’s heart, I am the most important of all, that’s enough. Many things he do have already shown how much he care, action speaks louder than words. Sometimes my darling can be rather emotional, me too. But just give and take, every relationship are the same.
I am looking forward to our new flat, currently now he willcome over on Friday to Monday, Tuesday to Thursday he will be in TPY. Usually Iwon’t look out of the window, when I bath finish, he will wash up and driveback to tpy to change to his company van. Before he leave I will give him a bighug, going to miss him haha. I happen to look out of the window, saw himwalking alone towards his car, I suddenly feel very sad. I kind of miss him somuch, seeing his back view I don’t wish him to go… haha. That was silly of me. Its just my feelings suddenly realise how much I miss him.
6 months plus into our marriage life, so far still ok, and ever since I switched to a normal office hour job, we have more time for ourselves. Somehow I still feel not enough time together. Maybe because we haven’t really got a place of our own. I kind of looking forward to my new home, waiting and waiting for HDB to pass meour keys! They are really damm slow, think the snail crawl faster than them.Anyway, what I can say is I love my hubby more and more each day and I believe it’sthe same for him too.
I will do my best to make our marriage a blissful one. I never forget what our solemniser said on our marry day, this will be the hand you going to hold forever, no matter what happen, never let go of this hand, till you grow old, hair all white, no more teeth, this will still be the hand you holding…forever.

Company Event

Every year there will be afew times where company will arrange an event, hoping everyone will attend. There will be a talk by the boss, feel free to ask any question, all your questions will be answered. Send your questions via email to the HR Manager, she will consolidate all the mails and send to boss as anonymous. Well well, who really dare to ask? I dont believe boss wont know who ask what questions.
Seems like this time round not many people ask questions, I was told that always a lot of people ask questions, but this time is to email to HR Manager, so no one really want to ask. Why? It seems like not many people like her and feel she cant keep secret, she might just tell her boyfriend and soon whole dept will know. (BTW, she is married, her boyfriend also married) Saying boss wont know, do you believe it?
My colleague ask me how? Her director ask her to ask questions too, she told me she got nothing to ask and don’t dare to ask. I agree with her. To us, very simple, everything is about money. What we want is money only, other things we are really not interested. Will people ask if boss will give bonus? How many mths bonus? Increment alot anot? I think this type of questions will be put aside. In the end she didnt send email at all, she will just say she didnt have time to send if they happen to ask her.
Lucky i dont have to send any email, i hate this kind of event, really a waste of time, sit there hear you talk, i would rather go home and talk to my poohs... hug my pillow and sleep. They are going to give speech for at least 1 hour plus, than its buffet time, by the time everything clear will be almost 9pm. Reach home 930pm to 10pm. Isnt it a waste of time?
Too bad have to stay.

Lets meet up!

Recently meet up with 3 ex-colleagues, 2 of them have changed a job, 1 is with me in the same company, the other 1 just started a new job not more than 1 month. Asking her how she feel, she said she has no regrets at all and was glad she made this decision to change. Paywise much higher and normal office hour job, which means she she have to work on weekend, also admin job. She feel she have alot of new things to learn, like before to others, what we do in the old company, the experience we have can only go into customer service line.
If you want to find admin job, not that easy as we don’t have enough of admin experience. When our only ex-colleague who is still staying said she want to gain more admin experience, the other 2 laugh at her and tell her impossible. The little bit of admin things we do are nothing to the outside world. To the outside world we are considered no experience at all, its only you go into that line than you will realise there is so much to learn, and learning are never-ending.
Of cause till now i am still learning, gaining experience, i am not sure how long i will stay in this company, but confirm have to stay at least 2 years to gain the admin experience. I suddenly remember what all my ex-colleauges told me when they left, they all say the same thing, there is so much to learn, so much that you will never learn in my old company. I now agree with them. I didn’t say much about changing job to our this ex-colleauge, afterall she has to make her own decision, our ex-company afterall still ok, i can only say everywhere is the same, only is to see what you really want.
She wanted to change as she wanted a normal office hour job too, sat and sun she can have time to spend with her 2 kids. Thats what she say, but she didnt really take action in looking for a job, but i feel our ex-company is also ok for her, as she often need to take leave as her mum wants to go back and no one could help her take care of the kids, she can actually arrange herself to off or take leave, as long there is someone to cover for her. But because of shift hours, she will not have much time to guide her kids in their studies. So there are good and bad points, if she change to a normal office hours job, all sat and sun off, work till 530pm and go home, she will have more time for her 2 kids, but if she have to take leave, will the company be able to allow her to take so often? There are times when she need to take alot of leave within the same mth, others might want to take leave too, sometimes in a department cannot have 2 person go on leave on the same time. So she really have to think carefully. Up to her to decide, no one can make a decision for her.
I could see she feel very stress, she have to learn to overcome that. If she cant take this stress, how is she going to face the stress in the outside world? For me, i like the freedom there, only the hours i dont like and i dont like to face those customers, bosses seldom come, only my manager comes. And for bonus wise, they are quite good. As for politics, everywhere is the same. Only see how you handle it. There are also good and bad, so it doesnt really matter that much, what i want is the experience, if i happen to want to change a job, at least now i have experience in being a admin.
Duing our recent meet up, we heard there are some changes, don’t know its good or bad, but the one to suffers are also the front desk, as we are the one facing customers. Somehow I feel abit glad I was no longer there to handle those customers. Other changes i feel is abit funny, but if i am still there, i wont really care. I will still do what i want haha. I really should go update my resume, add in this new company haha. In case I need it in future, I might forget the date I start work. So its best to update it 1st. Where did I save it in? Must go and dig liao.
Anyway I like to add that recently I heard one colleague kena disturbed by ghost, I just wonder why don’t the ghost disturb that HRM hahaha…..I would like to see her scared looks… :p

No choice of food

Being the only carteen here inside loyang offshore supply base, the chinese store that sells mixed veges and meat was terrible. No one complain? Or I am the only unlucky one. First time incident was the rice they gave, was smelly. It seems they the rice overnight but didnt put it in the fridge. It smells and uneable, the sour type of smell. In the end i only eat the veges and meat.
After some time I decide to try again, everything was ok until last few days, I bought porridge, cabbage, egg, meat. When I taste the porridge, alamak…the same smell, spoil! Ok so I only left with the veges and meat. I almost finsih all my veges than i saw something inside…a housefly! Really jialat, whats wrong, my colleauge saw it too, she look at her rice, than she decide she stop eating and throw it away. Hers seem ok, so can I say I am the only one?
Its seem like being the only stall in here selling mixed veges rice, they can do this kind of things, selling customers this kind of food? Its lucky i didnt have tummy upset. I think for a very long period i will not buy from them, or never buy from them again. Maybe i should report them, should i? Anyway its over, no point saying anything. I will only eat malay food, slice fish bee hoon or chicken rice.
Maybe i will start bringing veges over to make salad for lunch.

Better to be busy or have nothing to do

Is it good to be busy or better to be free and nothing much to do? Of cause its better to relax than having many things to do, can serve internet and play games. It would be good unless there is no one to supervise you, no boss around to see what you are doing, dont have so many eyes trying to spy you.

You may though no one is looking, but there is always people looking and you may not notice. Especially in open office where there isnt much privacy, too free and if you pretend you are busy, people will start to say things. So its best to be really busy in this kind of environment, problem is i am rather free, so many times i have to act busy. But how long can i act? Its really tiring to act busy. So whenever i got things to do, i will do it slowly.

Maybe the things I am doing takes only 1 hr to finish it at normal speed, I try using my slowest speed (provided the thing is not urgent) to do it, try to drag for afew hrs more. In my situation, its best to have something to do, in afew days time we are going to change our seating position, which i dont really like, as this new place has 0% privacy.

So its best to be busy, with work to do and I can take my time to finish it in time rather than being too free and try ot act busy. You will feel timing pass very slow, slow till you want to die. Unless I am in an environment where I have a lot of privacy, too bad, i dont have.